Friday, May 6, 2016

Dating. Written specifically to my friends struggling on the matter.

First of all, I haven't changed my blogs name or title but yes I am home from my mission and loving it. I am working part-time at Alpine Village and going school full time to BYU. I have wonderful roommates and honestly am just loving every second of being here. 


There are a lot of ways that we forget what we are worth. As I listened to my teacher  in my New Testament class today I thought to myself, there are so many of my friends that have forgotten. A specific point was mentioned today in class: Something is worth what someone is willing to pay for it. 

For example, I could make a beautiful bracelet but if no one is willing to buy it, what is it really worth? Not much because it would probably end up sitting on a shelf collecting dust for years. On the other hand, a famous artist can start a masterpiece but slip on the floor with a paintbrush in his hand and paint just one streak by accident on a  flawless canvas and people would pay millions for his one line. Economically speaking, things, no matter what they look like or the effort put into them, or only worth how much someone is willing to pay for it. 

There is something heart-wrenching in that truth, and specifically amongst humans. Economics tells us that we are worth the amount that someone is willing to pay for us. Because of this, we as young adults so often determine our worth, no matter how great of a person we are, based on the amount of attention we receive from the opposite gender. We go as far as to stress out on every part of who we are— the way we look, the way we eat, the way we talk, the way we joke.. And often times we change those things simply out of a need to ‘’be bought’’ and feel ‘’worth it’’. And more times than not, we feel we have fell short, not ‘’won’’ the person over, and therefore must not be worth much. 

I think the biggest mistake that we make is not realizing that we have already been bought. We have already been proven worth it. 

Jesus Christ was a perfect man. He paid his own life, for you. Someone is worth what someone is wiling to pay for them. What price did he pay? The one perfect man, the Son of God, the prince of peace, the good shepherd, gave his life for you. 

Can’t we see Satan’s traps in the tricks of our worth? Can’t we see that He would try and make us think we must not be worth it, rather on focusing on the eternal truth that God has a wonderful plan for us made possible through Jesus Christ. 

Yes, break-ups and fall-outs and rejections can be truly devastating. We go through a lot of suffering and heart-ache most times throughout our dating journey. However if we stand with the Savior, we will never worry about a ‘’break-up’’ a ‘’fall-out’’ nor a ‘’rejection’’ from him, as Paul put it: 

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?..For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.’’ -Romans 8:35, 38-39

We try so hard to be loved in return, but we forget that we already have love. We already have been proven worth it. Through Christ, we can feel good and wonderful and at peace as Paul also put it:  ‘’..In all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.’’ -Romans 8:37.  When we get this, truly get this, we look through the lens of the one person who could actually love us perfectly, and see who we really are and what we can become. 

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